Our life is full of what-ifs.

They say, what is the tragedy, falling in love or falling out of it? Who knows, but the one’s experiencing it or has experienced it. It scares the hell out of me when I was hit by the sudden realization that I am in love and what if it will not last. Do you know that butterflies, soulmates, and everything? I am pretty connected with these wonders.

It really hit me when Ahmed Faraz said: The limits of love are very weird, neither was I kept as hostage, nor did I run away!! I know I am in love, and I know what I feel about it. But what is so scary about feeling it to the fullest? I am scared if I think way too fast and way too much about love, I am going to ruin it. What if the first time I get butterflies is the last time I get them? I am attached to this feeling so much that I want to feel it again and again and for the same person I LOVE.

I have the answer, or this is how my brain thinks about it. The last time I was hurt, I built a guarded system to protect my body and soul. I have prioritized “What-ifs” to unfold the layers of someone new entering my life. Don’t you think your soul, body, and life are way too precious to protect? It is!

It is your right to think differently about it. You may think that “what-ifs” kills the joy and it makes you vulnerable and hinders your experiences. Yes, it may have the power to make you fear life to the extent that you don’t want to live anymore, experience things, love someone, and be loved. But it cannot overcome you! You are the boss of your emotions and life. You get to decide the standards and measurements. You have the complete right to choose what is best for you. And if these standards and measurements help you, let them!

I do want to make sure that the person I am letting into my space is the ONE. I want to be sure that I can protect him and myself in the process. Honey, trust me these “What-ifs” saves you and protect you. And it is okay to face your fears, they make you brave and strong!